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“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”
— 1 Corinthians 13:4-5
The current phrase of “Let’s Make America Great Again” has taken on a very different definition than what the words actually mean, depending on your viewpoint. Today’s post is NOT a political blog. It is one, I hope, of thoughtful deliberation.
People seem to measure life in a sequence of events: birth, childhood, adulthood, old age and death. It is the connection of life events throughout these stages that define what we actually do to make our family, friends, neighbors, community, city or town, state, country and the world great – by our own individual actions.
An approach might be to view things from your own personal perspective and where you are in life and ask yourself “how can I make life great?” You don’t need the word again – the fact that we breathe in and we breathe out already does that.
My method for myself, as a most flawed individual, is to do more than just breathe. I’m a simple person and approach life with a simple outlook, primarily through these three things.
- Demonstrate my faith. Regardless of your choice of faith, or non-faith, this is not hard to do. Respect. Kindness. It is simply helping others even when you don’t want too or don’t have time. Often this is made difficult because of the voices screaming to follow one path – their path. While that may ultimately be the case, show respect for yourself. Vetting it out will create an inner peace that will shine through your actions and help others return that respect.
- Stop and think. Suspend any bias while you allow your mind to free flow without external noise. What is the root of the issue? Why is it an issue? Look at all sides. Respect your own ability to reason, your own spirit to respect, and your own heart to love. Find a point of collaboration – I promise you, this point exists.
- That old expression, sometimes you have to go slow to go fast, is still true. Rushing to action without going through steps 1 and 2, is fraught with heartache and can be damaging. If I could have a do over for my rushing mistakes, knowing what I know now, peace would be mine. Peace doesn’t only come from regretting mistakes. It comes from forgiveness. When I learned to forgive, whether from someone asking for it or from my letting go of old hurts, I finally understood that I too could be forgiven.
In your hearts, set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect. — 1 Peter 3:15
I can get so mad when people don’t take care of those who can’t take care of themselves (like animals). I don’t like to be mad. It makes me feel bad, therefore, making me madder at what made me mad in the first place!
Recently a woman was standing in a line at the DMV in Missouri and fired her gun into the air because the line was too slow. I don’t know if she calmed down after being thrown to the ground, handcuffed, and taken to jail. My point is that this example, in its most basic form, is radical anger.
When a kernel of radical anger is planted, it grows from what it’s fed. Today, political issues (groan) feeds this type of anger whether from public sources or in hidden back ‘rooms’. Social media and different slants provided by different news agencies are often the triggers.
The good news from this is that our freedom allows us to choose our party of choice: Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, Green and my favorite, Humane (animal rights). There are more than 100 additional parties to choose from. How good is that?
Sadly, the kernel of radical anger is growing in so many different directions that chaos is feeding radical anger. Humans have lost our ability to be both different and united. When did we stop thinking and deliberating on issues? Recognition of differences, even if it’s not “your thing”, in and of themselves should unite us; sadly, they do not.
So, do we risk an extreme reaction like the woman in the DMV line; or do we can choose a different method?
To find common ground for common causes, while respecting individual rights.
By not feeding our kernel of anger and use:
Truth over Lie.
Kindness over rudeness
Accepting your way is not my way – love diffuses hate.
Evidence of Success?
Feed the kernels of honesty, respect and love as we remember what our country, and many other countries, were founded on, which is (for purposes of today’s blog, my reference to county is America):
“I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one nation under God, indivisible with liberty and justice for all.”
John Dickinson, Founding Father in his pre-revolutionary song, “The Liberty Song” wrote, “Then join hand in hand, brave Americans all! By uniting we stand, by dividing we fall.”
We the people created this county. Let’s not demolish it.
America must maintain the identity of what God blessed America with. We welcome all in our big ole’ melting pot, sharing, working, learning, and trusting our personal savior. Every individual brings something to the mix, not to dominate, but by doing the right thing in the right way.
Proverbs 15:18 “A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.”
It’s just that simple.
…can grow anywhere at anytime, faster and denser than a patch of kudzu weed. Where does it come from? What nourishes it? How do you recognize it?
This week we celebrate the freedom of the United States of America. How do we guard and protect that freedom from apathy?
Well, can you cite at least one good thing our current president has done for our country? Here’s my example: he brought the remains of U.S. soldiers from the North Korean War home to American soil. My father was a veteran of that war, all defending our freedom. This was something to give thanks for as it brought closure and honor to so many.
Do you know who your state government officials in Washington are?
Do you know who your local government officials are?
Do you know that these officials ran for public office to serve? Therefore, you can and should contact them when you have questions, concerns and suggestions.
If you couldn’t answer even ONE of these questions I ask you to consider this – when did that kernel of apathy get planted in your heart and soul? Has it been there so long you fail to recognize it for what it is?
On this July 4, 2019, let us never forget the powerful words that not only declared America as a free nation, but also what it means to be free:
“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights that among these are Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness.”
——U.S. Declaration of Independence July 4, 1776
God, our Creator, gave us this freedom along with His Holy guidance to secure and honor that freedom. Let us be thankful and never forget that…
God Blessed America.
“And the Lord is the Spirit: and where the spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.”
2 Cor. 3:17
breadcrumbs of our life.
Women don’t leave a relationship easily, even when it is one of pain. They tend to give the benefit of the doubt more than is wise – trusting that the other person didn’t mean to cause harm. She eventually learns that your damage, while difficult, didn’t reach her mind or her soul. This realization is her point of no return. She is finished with you.
Hers is a forever good-bye. Nothing you can say or do will change that. You’re fooling yourself if you think otherwise. Her trust has been destroyed. She is so much stronger because she now knows that she deserves better than what you could ever give her. She moves forward, totally detached from whatever space you had taken up in her life. She will never reattach to your kind of betrayal.
You are only a fading dark spot on the horizon– a minor mistake made and forgotten. She doesn’t look back. Her eyes face the next season as life brings forth the joys and blessings that were meant for her all along. She has experienced the worst from you. She cherishes her new best life and is thankful for it.
You are not, nor will you be, any part of her life – ever. Civility and respect means that NO means NO. You don’t have a say in her definition of that word. The best you can hope for is that she has forgiven you.
Take heed: Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation.
Understand these words… and go fix yourself.
I haven’t posted a blog in six months.
What’s that about?
So, I thought I could sit and draft 50 words or so and say I have.
So I typed some words. Then I deleted them. I typed some more – deleted them too.
Then I just stared at the blank screen and noticed a pop up message that said, “You haven’t written anything yet.”
That was helpful. No, I’m not being glib. It was helpful because it made me think.
What else have I not done?
–haven’t lost that 10 pounds I’ve talked about for yeeeeeeears.
–haven’t gone to Italy – I really want to go.
–haven’t … hmmmm, so many have nots that I’m embarrassed to list them.
Better to list my haves I think!
–have accepted Jesus Christ as my personal savior
–have loved and been loved by my husband and children
–have learned unconditional love from my dog
–have many wonderful family and friends
-have good health
–have made a difference in people’s lives
–have made mistakes – have asked for forgiveness – have given forgiveness – have forgiven myself
–have helped others in little ways because those add up to big ways
-have lived a happy life.
Ah, this is helpful because it makes me think. I’ve actually done all of the important things in life.
Aren’t I lucky.
As my friend Valye said, “No honey, you are blessed. God doesn’t do lucky.